Help...have already posted but people suggested shortening it so....?

Tell your friend that as much as you sympathise with her situation, that because of yours, you find it a very difficult one to help her with. Suggest that she gets some counselling and tries to sort it out for herself (in a gentle way). Say that you will back her whatever she does, but can't be part of her decision making process. You need to take care of yourself. Miscarriage is a tough thing to come to terms with. Hope you get the opportunity to have another go at IVF.